I get a lot of private messages on my Facebook page every day. Most of them are about going vegan, cheese cravings and how to help others. But the question I get asked more than any other is how to be vegan and live with an omnivore. More specifically, how to be happy living with an omnivore. Many vegans are nervous about getting into a serious relationship with someone who isn’t a vegan and especially about marrying them. Can it really work?
Keep in mind that everything I am going to share in this article is mostly from my own personal experience. And I also have close friends who have gone through this so I have seen it from the outside looking in as well. The first thing you should know and be aware of is this: If you are early in the relationship and your being vegan is already causing problems then it will probably never get any better. The early stages of a relationship are when people usually go out of their way to put their best face forward. And they are also more forgiving of things that bother them early on. As time goes on they will stop holding back and just let their feelings known. If someone isn’t holding back early then they don’t even have the ability to pretend early for the sake of seeing you. They sure won’t work with you later on.
I do not want to dissuade you though. If you really like someone who is an omnivore and are somewhat reasonable about it you can probably make it work. In fact the biggest question will probably be more about you than about them. Will you be happy being with someone who eats animals one year from now? How about five years from now. For a lot of vegans this is really hard because their compassion and ethical base is so strong. So you should first make sure you can be happy in this situation before you even start trying to worry about your partner. There are basically 5 questions you need to ask yourself. How you answer these questions will guide you on how to proceed.
Get the 5 questions you need to answer before getting serious with an omnivore. And how to make it work once you both decide it’s worth it. Continued on the next page below.