How To Vegan

Living With An Omnivore: How I Make It Work

I get a lot of private messages on my Facebook page every day. Most of them are about going vegan, cheese cravings and how to help others. But the question I get asked more than any other is how to be vegan and live with an omnivore. More specifically, how to be happy living with an omnivore. Many vegans are nervous about getting into a serious relationship with someone who isn’t a vegan and especially about marrying them. Can it really work?

Keep in mind that everything I am going to share in this article is mostly from my own personal experience. And I also have close friends who have gone through this so I have seen it from the outside looking in as well. The first thing you should know and be aware of is this: If you are early in the relationship and your being vegan is already causing problems then it will probably never get any better. The early stages of a relationship are when people usually go out of their way to put their best face forward. And they are also more forgiving of things that bother them early on. As time goes on they will stop holding back and just let their feelings known. If someone isn’t holding back early then they don’t even have the ability to pretend early for the sake of seeing you. They sure won’t work with you later on.

I do not want to dissuade you though. If you really like someone who is an omnivore and are somewhat reasonable about it you can probably make it work. In fact the biggest question will probably be more about you than about them. Will you be happy being with someone who eats animals one year from now? How about five years from now. For a lot of vegans this is really hard because their compassion and ethical base is so strong. So you should first make sure you can be happy in this situation before you even start trying to worry about your partner. There are basically 5 questions you need to ask yourself. How you answer these questions will guide you on how to proceed.

Get the 5 questions you need to answer before getting serious with an omnivore. And how to make it work once you both decide it’s worth it. Continued on the next page below.

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  1. I am the complete opposite to my wife with many things but we get along great. I don’t expect her to live by my code of ethics when it comes to being a vegan. No reason to be intolerant and ignorant to others views just because they aren’t your own. If you proceed with logic and reason maybe your spouse will join the cause 🙂 mine is working on it

  2. Definitely! I am a Vegan for myself and my believes. I don’t see why I have to change my husband and my kids. With that said, they will change one day and it might be a slow process because it’s a conversation that we constantly have about why is right to be a Vegan. Small changes!!! ✌️❤️

  3. It works. I do the groceries and cooking, so we only eat vegan at home, and my husband is supportive. If he wants to eat animals, he can eat it at a restaurant. This has cut down on his meat consumption by 80%.

  4. I live with an omnivore and I love him so much. He is respectful of my choices as I am of his. We are both at different points in our live and that is how it is. One day I would love it if he went animal friendly but if he never does my love will not change just because of that.

  5. My husband used to be omnivore but naturaly became Vegetarian (diary and eggs) after he meet me….i’m vegan and it’s ok but he respect me and he understand so there’re no eggs or diary at home, he eat them outside…
    i couldn’t stand living with an omnivore smelling the beef when it’s cooked or watching the blood in the fridge next to my veggies! Im sorry 🙁

  6. Yes. I’m not vegan, but vegetarian and my husband LOVES hamburgers, but it doesn’t bother me because I’m not the one eating it. And since I became vegetarian he doesn’t eat as much as he use to

  7. My husband and I have been together for 21 years. 2 years ago I went vegetarian, and am going vegan this year. He was very upset and patronizing about it at first because he had pre conceived ideas of who vegetarians/vegans were due to our media and labels we like to place on people. He was also afraid I was going to try and force my choices on him. Well, I have since educated him with facts and have had many deep conversations with him as to why I personally made my decision. Now he sees I am not a “tree hugging freak,” and he still gets to enjoy all of his meat. I believe communication and respect of each other’s thoughts and feelings is key.

  8. Absolutely! Here’s why. I was an omnivore and never even thought about what I ate. I started dating an amazing vegan girl, and 5 months later I made the switch to vegan. She knocked down all the stereotypes of how vegans are portrayed and was instrumental in my switch, by leading with her actions rather than preaching at me. I think the compassionate, healthy, environmentally friendly lifestyle is contagious. I’m just glad she put up with my ways for 5 whole months until I made the switch! Had she not taken the chance and decided to date an omnivore, there’s a high chance I wouldn’t be vegan today. I’m sure others have had similar experiences.

  9. I was Vegetarian for 3 years and transitioned into Vengan 7 months ago. With that said I have been Married 17yrs and two teenagers. They are not Vegetarian or Vegan and I have to respect that. I do introduce them everyday to my meals and they do enjoy them. I can say it will be a slow transition but I have to respect them. I do wish I would of introduced them 17yrs ago. But small changes make a big difference!

  10. My husband and I when we met we both ate everything but then I went pestatarian then vegetarian now vegan transitioning thru out the years and not going back to old ways. My husband after a few years he transition too. With educating ourselves he agreed and now we are on the same page! So I have to say I am pretty lucky!!

  11. My boyfriend and I live together, I’m vegan and he loves to eat meat. He respects my choice, and I understand that he likes to eat meat. Being vegan shouldn’t be about trying to make everyone vegan, it should just be about educating yourself and others if they ask. It honestly shouldn’t affect your relationship, because everyone is different! 🙂

  12. Hubby is a meat eater and I am vegan. We make vegan meals and he then adds his meat stuff, same for cheese. Example: we made vegan chili last night and he put cooked hamburger and cheese into his. I don’t buy meat or dairy products, this is something he must do on his own.

  13. My boyfriend is an omni. We make it work just fine. Although I admit, I wish he would consider going vegan for the simple reason that I am very passionate about food and I’d like to be with someone who shares the same kinds of passions. My diet is a big part of my life and is very important to me, but we’re respectful towards each other’s choices. I don’t necessarily enjoy cooking meat though. ?

  14. It’s indeed tough and compromises have to be made. Similarly, when I cook, I have no clue on meat prep anyway (been veggie since I was kid) and if he cooks he makes the meat separately and if there’s egg/dairy in the food, then I’m vegetarian for that meal. But I once said it was my own personal philosophy that I didn’t want to impose on how others eat if they don’t make a fuss on how I eat. It’s very hard when my conscience just gets depressed at how the world eats in general but I can’t take that out on my SO. I also don’t want to make it seem like vegheads isolate themselves from the rest of the world – it’s already a lonely place sometimes when you’re the only one around who cares enough to make this choice. The best I can do is be an example of someone who is happier eating with my choices and hope that others follow suit.

  15. Hubby of 10 years eats meat although he would say he’s 90% vegetarian. LOL. I’ve been vegan for 6 months now, vegetarian for 20 years. I still hope and pray that one day I’ll make a vegan out of him. Sometimes I think life would be easier if I married a vegan but my husband makes me delicious vegan meals and if I do convert him then that’s a miracle and that’s one more vegan in the world! If not, then he ate a lot of vegetarian/vegan meals since meeting me 10 years ago, so thats something. It takes compassion and respect on both sides but it is possible.

  16. My husband and I became vegetarians together and then vegans together, years later. It makes our bond so strong knowing we are doing what’s best for the planet and animals. I think it could work with a vegan and omnivore, but I don’t know if it would work for me.

  17. I don’t know how I could respect an omni enough to be in a serious relationship, so it is a big NO for me. It is like asking if I could be in a relationship with a thief or murderer or anything else I find morally repugnant.

  18. I was vegetarian for 6 months before going vegan and my boyfriend decided to do it with me. We were both vegan for almost 2 years before he went back to eating meat since he’s obsessed with trying to body build…but he still eats a lot of vegab food. He goes to vegan resturants with me eats vegan when we’re together. He probably will eventually turn vegan again I think it’s all an experiment but I consider myself lucky to have a boyfriend who respects how I eat, and enjoys eating the way I do even though he still eats meat too..although he never ate dairy again and doesn’t want to.

  19. Extremely difficult. I think unless the person decides to transition at some point ….*shrug*. Sucks but being vegan is more than what you put in your mouth…it’s a way of life and if the person who should be closest to you can’t make the connection then…might be time to part ways. However I personally know how terrible and hard that might be.

  20. my fiance isn’t vegan and we’ve been together for 8 years most of them living with each other. he loves a lot of vegan meals i cook. not everything but most. He respects my choice to be vegan and i respect his to be omnivore. I think with out that it will never work out.

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